What Happens When You Love Yourself Fully?

Let’s be real for a moment.  

You’ve probably heard it before: You need to love yourself first. It’s one of those phrases that’s tossed around so often, it’s lost a bit of its magic - like "follow your passion" or "drink more water." Lovely ideas, sure, but when you’re juggling work, family, and about a 100 tasks in your brain, they can feel… impractical.  

But here’s the thing: loving yourself isn’t just a feel-good mantra. It’s not about bubble baths or journaling your way to joy (though, hey, those can be nice too). Loving yourself is about something much deeper.  

It’s about the relationship you have with yourself—how you treat yourself when you succeed, and when things go wrong, how you carry yourself everyday - through opportunities and challenges, and whether you truly believe you’re worthy of kindness, even when you don’t "earn" it.  

The Cost of Not Loving Yourself 

Let’s take a moment here. Imagine someone close to you - a friend, a colleague - going through a tough time. They’re exhausted, they’re trying their best, and nothing seems to be going right. Now imagine you walk up to them and say: “Wow, you’re a real mess. Why can’t you do better?”

You’d never say that to someone else, right? So why is it so easy to say it to ourselves?  

When we don’t love ourselves, we become our own harshest critics. We overwork, overcommit, and overthink, chasing a version of "enough" that we may never reach. It’s because deep down, we’ve bought into the idea that our worth is tied to what we achieve, how perfect we are, how much we can give to others, or how others perceive us.  

The result? Stress, burnout, and that sneaky little voice in your head whispering: “You’re falling behind.”

What Loving Yourself Really Looks Like

Let us clear something up: loving yourself isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about embracing all of who you are - your brilliance and your blind spots, your messy days and your magic moments. It’s about being on your own side, no matter what.  

Here’s what that can look like:  

When you make a mistake, instead of spiraling into guilt - you forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes and move forward with peace. 

When you’re tired, you honor that feeling instead of pushing through it.  

When you look at your life, you observe not just what’s missing but everything you’ve done to get to this moment.  

It’s not always easy. We understand.  

For instance, sometime ago we met a project manager. She was the kind of person who always said yes - to deadlines, to projects, to people who needed help. She prided herself on being dependable, but deep down, she was running on fumes. As we worked with her, we asked her a question that changed everything: “What would it look like to show yourself even half the care you show others?”

At first, she didn’t know the answer. It felt strange to even think about. But over time, as she continued to reflect on the question - things began to shift within. For the first time ever, began to focus on nurturing a deeper relationship with herself. 

Her shoulders felt lighter. Her days became more manageable. She was no longer merely surviving but thriving. And as her state of being transformed, so did the people around her. 

Start, and Keep Going 

See, loving yourself isn’t a box to check off. It’s not a goal you’ll "achieve" and then move on from. It’s a practice - one you begin, one you continue, and one that grows with you as you evolve.  

And maybe that’s the most beautiful part: there’s no finish line. No perfect version of yourself you have to become. Just the daily choice to show up, to care for yourself, to honor your worth - even when it feels easier to push it aside.  

So tonight, when the day quiets down, take five minutes to check in with yourself. Ask:  

• How did I live today? 

• From what state—love, fear, or something else?

• Was I kind to myself?

• Did I do anything to nurture my body, mind, or heart?

 Not to judge yourself, but to understand yourself better.  

Because here’s the thing: loving yourself doesn’t mean you’ll never fall short. It just means that when you do, you’ll catch yourself with compassion instead of criticism.   

We’ll leave you with this question: What would your life look like if you started loving yourself - not just today, but every day?  

It might not happen overnight. But little by little, it will change the way you live, how you take care of yourself, the way you lead, and the way you dream about the future.  

Whether you want us to guide you on this path or you want to do it on your own, the most important thing is that you start and continue this journey. Your future is waiting - build it with love